Updated: Jan 23, 2020
Being a stay at home mom is not easy, and becoming burnt out as a stay at home mom can happen quickly.
If you know someone who is a stay at home mom and is killing it- I'll bet that they are using a variation of these tips.
You're a burnt-out, overwhelmed, stay at home mom. You feel like you're drowning in housework, you're stuck in a dark hole of the same boring routine, and you just can't get ahead.
Don't worry- there is a light at the end of the tunnel! These tips will give you the tools you need to battle stay at home mom burn-out and have a damn good day!
1. Get up early
Wake up before your little clones barrel into your bedroom and start with the demands. Give yourself some time as a human being before you’re propelled into super mom.
Use the early morning to relax (or clean, if that’s your thing). Get your ducks in a row for the day so that you’re not scrambling through the morning- trying to wrangle your ducks, and your ducklings, at the same time.
Think about what it is that would make you feel ready to conquer the day, and then do it.
Do you need some mommy time to chill on the couch and sip your coffee in pure silence? Now is the time.
Do you function better in a tidy home? Go ahead and tidy without munchkins creating a mess behind you.
Do you so desperately need a long, hot shower? Hop in there and give yourself the pampering you deserve.
This is your time to focus on whatever it is that you need to do to prepare for the day ahead.
2. Get outside
A breath of fresh air is what you (and your kids) need as a stay at home mom. Your burnout, as a stay at home mom, is stemming from being cooped up inside your house, breathing the same stale air, and staring at the same walls. You need a change of scenery!
According to the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), American’s spend 93% of their time indoors. Let’s just go ahead and assume stay at home moms spend even more than that!
Getting outside doesn’t have to be some elaborate well-drawn-out plan, although most excursions with children are. It can be as simple as you pulling a chair outside while the kids play in the yard. It’s as easy as sitting on the porch while they color with sidewalk chalk.
Oh, it's raining today, you say? Open the windows and listen to the sound of nature. Better yet, get on those rain boots and channel your inner child- go puddle jumping with your kids or help them make little sailboats!
Studies show that being outside can reduce levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) and have a relaxing effect on the body. We could all benefit from less stress- especially you burnt out stay at home mamas!
3. Find Balance
As a stay at home mom, you must become a master at prioritizing while also finding balance.
This begins with a change in your mindset.
You must realize that things will not always go according to plan.
Remind yourself that you will not always have a spotless house. Some days you will have dishes in the sink, your floors will have crumbs, toys will be in every crevice of your home, and that's okay.
There will be days where your kids don’t listen and you feel overwhelmed, and that’s okay too.
You’re going to experience mom guilt. You’re going to feel like you could’ve done better.
Some days you’re going to have to make tough decisions between what is a priority and what is not, and that’s okay.
Finding a balance between keeping things running smoothly and creating more stress for yourself is key to avoiding burnout as a stay at home mom.
4. Don’t forget yourself
You’re so busy caring for your family that you often forget that you are a person too. Remember you're more than just a mom, more than just a wife.
You are a living breathing creature that, just like your family, needs nurturing and attention too.
Remembering yourself daily doesn’t have to be difficult.
Set aside a few minutes each day to do whatever it is that makes you feel whole again.
Take a few extra minutes in the shower to really exfoliate and scrub your body. Spend extra time getting ready in the morning or try a new makeup look. Make that banana bread recipe you’ve been wanting to try.
Find something each day that will remind you of who you are as a person.
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